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Eleanor Roosevelt and a Poignant Christmas

12/23/2013

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Eleanor Roosevelt's Last Christmas with her Father
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Eleanor Roosevelt and her Father Elliott Roosevelt, 1889
During the next five years Elliott and Eleanor's mother, Anna, would both die.
Source: Wikipedia Commons
Later in life, when Eleanor Roosevelt was the most famous and influential woman in the world, she cherished the memory of her last Christmas with her father. Elliott Roosevelt was a troubled man who had failed in business, taken to drink, and -- in the wake of  breaking his ankle -- become addicted to pain-killing drugs.  This passage from  Eleanor Roosevelt: A Personal and Public Life, describes the heartbreak at the center of Eleanor's childhood and that of her mother, Anna Hall Roosevelt:
Elliott spent much of the summer in bed and found solace in medicines more poisonous than the hurt ankle: morphine and laudanum. These drugs, prescribed freely in Victorian America, carried Elliott into a pleasant oblivion where neither the pain of the ankle nor the mortification of his personal failures could touch him. During the summer and fall of 1889 his ankle slowly healed, but his drug dependence increased. Anna begged him to give up narcotics. He refused, and in December he abruptly left the family and went south, ostensibly to seek a rest cure.

Anna, left at home with Eleanor and baby Ellie, was disconsolate. She hoped Elliott would return one afternoon shortly after Christmas, and when he did not she went to her room, lay on the bed, and sobbed. In the evening she wrote Elliott beseeching him to come home and be well. Sentence by sentence she drew a picture of a bereaved household. She and Eleanor had opened Christmas presents alone. She had gone by herself to a holiday party, but was so "wretched" she came home after a few minutes.

Whenever the postman came Eleanor rushed down the stairs hoping for word of her father. Anna told Elliott, "I do nothing but think of you and pray you will come back. . . . I am so terribly lonely without you." "Dearest," she wrote, "Throw your horrid cocktails away and don't touch anything hard .... Remember that your little wife and children love you so tenderly and will try to help you in every possible way they can to conquer in the hard hard fight." The "hard fight" - self-discipline was what Elliott needed. "Nell," she said, "it must be an entire conquest, a partial one is no good. "

There, she had done her wifely duty; she had preached the doctrine of self-control. But she could not end on such an austere note; she was a wife, not a schoolmistress, and she needed him. "Don't leave us again," she implored, "We can't do without you." 
Elliott's abuse of drugs and alcohol continued, however, and to make matters worse he had an affair with one of the Roosevelt servants, Katie Mann. At the insistence of his brother, Theodore Roosevelt, Eliott was sent off to a kind of exile in Abington, Virgina, where he was expected to conquer his addictions and recover his fortune. While in Abington he made friends easily among the adults and the local children, perhaps in compensation for the absence of his beloved daughter, As described in Eleanor Roosevelt: 
The adults of Abington could hardly object to their children's devotion to Elliott, for they too were captivated by him. He drank apple cider at their firesides, read them his favorite poems, and invited them to his rooms to sing songs around the piano. During the winters when snow lay deep on the hillsides around Abington, Elliott organized sledding parties for the whole town. He joined the local Episcopal Church, sang in its choir, and was soon made a member of its vestry. Like his father, "Greatheart," Elliott became known for his charities. He distributed old clothes and Christmas turkeys to the poor and persuaded his brother-in-law to support missions in the coal-mining camps on his lands. One of Elliott's many admirers was so taken by him that in 1900 she urged her friends to vote for the Republican ticket simply because Teddy Roosevelt, the Vice-Presidential candidate, was Elliott's brother.

Elliott Roosevelt was probably never more respected and loved than during his stay in Abingdon. But he was privately tormented by the absence of his wife and children. Surely he had shown himself worthy to be forgiven. If only he might return some day to his apartment and find Anna waiting for him, her beautiful face glowing with love and understanding, her arms ready to enclose him in an embrace of reconciliation. 
But that moment never came. Anna contracted diphtheria in New York and died.  Elliott was devastated. But Eleanor loved and missed him all the more. Then came the Christmas that she would remember for the rest of her life:
After her mother's death Eleanor and the boys went to live with their Grandmother Hall on 37th Street. Elliott wanted the children with him in Virginia, but in her will Anna requested that they be raised by Mary Hall, and none of their relatives would encourage Elliott to assume custody. He returned alone to Abingdon after the funeral, but Mary, moved by compassion, invited him to spend Christmas with the children.

The house on 37th Street, which had been filled with roses and lilies nine years before for Anna and Elliott's wedding, now held a beautifully decorated Christmas tree illuminated by candles. In the late afternoon on the day before Christmas Eleanor and her father, along with her brothers, aunts, uncles, and grandmother sat down to their dinner of roast turkey. In the evening they sang carols. Anna's sister Pussie played the piano while Elliott led the singing with his good strong voice. Eleanor particularly remembered,

"Silent night, holy night,
All is calm, all is bright..."

That night two stockings hung at the foot of Eleanor's bed, one from Grandmother Hall and one from her father. The next morning she found grandmother's stocking full of "utilitarian gifts" a toothbrush, soap, a washcloth, pencils, and a pencil sharpener. In the other stocking her father had "put in little things a girl could wear - a pair of white gloves, a pretty handkerchief, several hair ribbons, and a little gold pin." Beneath the Christmas tree was another present, a fox terrier puppy bred by her father in Virginia. He gave it, she believed, "because he knew I would love to have something to care for and call my own." She, in turn, had made her father a handkerchief case and a tobacco pouch.

After breakfast the servants came into the living room and received their presents. Then the family went to a Christmas service at Calvary Church, where Elliott and Anna had been married. Eleanor nestled beside her father, and he held his prayer book so that she could read it with him. Anna had stood with Elliott long ago at the front of this church; now she was gone, but their daughter was with him.... 
The promise of that moment was short-lived; Elliott continued drinking and alcohol led to his death. But that wonderful Christmas remained with Eleanor throughout her life as a powerful talisman. Christmas was an important part of Eleanor Roosevelt's adult life. She even kept a "Christmas closet" in which she stored presents throughout each year, carefully selecting each gift for each member of her family and friends. Many years later, when she was on the path to being America's foremost First Lady and a key person in drafting the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, she remembered all of these  details of that long-ago Christmas: white gloves, little ribbons, a puppy, her beloved father, and the Christmas hint, elusive but heartfelt, of the possibility of reconciliation....

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